Ways to Make Up with Your Loved Ones After a Fight
Fights with your loved ones can be difficult to get over. All sorts of fights can very quickly get out of hand, and can lead to days of couples not talking to each other, and not wanting to apologize first. Some people refuse to apologize, and will stick with their position until the other person breaks. This isn’t a healthy way to have a relationship, and simmering arguments only cause tension. Many people are, however, able to accept when they’re wrong, and make things up with their loved ones. There are several ways to do this, from a simple personal apology, through to treating the other person and giving sorry cards. These methods are expanded upon below:
1 - Apologize in Person
Sometimes it’s best to just have a simple conversation after an argument. Leave a bit of time to let tempers cool down, and then agree to have an honest conversation without losing your head. Clearing the air will most often result in you realizing that you both shouldn’t have lost your temper. This might not mean that the argument is necessarily over, but that you’re both ready to be a bit more understanding about how to approach it.
2 - Treat the Other Person
A good way of making things up to a person is to take them out for dinner. Buying them a present is also recommended for making an apology. A clear the air dinner can work well because you’ll be less inclined to argue in public, and a present can be a way of making a peace offering. However, don’t go overboard with the gift giving, and don’t try to use gifts and treats as a substitute for actually saying that you’re sorry.
3 - Give it Time
Time is often the best healer of an argument. Don’t just ignore the other person, but also don’t offer up an apology straightaway when both of you are still emotional. Give things a day or two to cool off, and maybe go away for this time to visit friends and family. Getting a fresh perspective will ultimately mean that you can come back and apologize, or try to work things out without getting angry.
4 - Giving Sorry Cards
Giving your loved one a sorry card can be an excellent way of making a statement without going overboard. A personalized card that has a sense of humour is probably the best way forward, as it will help break the tension after an argument, and prove that you want to resolve things. Choosing between an emailed card or a paper one can be tricky, though, and you want to weigh up whether an online card won’t be enough of a statement.
5 - Do Favors
A meaningful apology is difficult to measure, but you can show that you’re making an effort by offering to do favors for the other person for the next week. These favors might include doing the washing up, walking the dog every day, doing the laundry, or picking the children up from school.
Patrick Hegarty is an enthusiastic writer, who is current delving into the history and uses of cards from homemade to personalized cards from online shops.
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